After an affair is discovered, it takes over the airtime in a relationship. For many couples, every conversation eventually leads back to the betrayal, or almost nothing feels safe to say at all.
Recovery requires hard conversations. But a marriage can't be rebuilt in hard conversations alone. Couples also need the easy ones back: the playful, curious, ordinary moments that make up most of a healthy relationship.
In this bonus episode, Tim explains why small moments of connection matter so much, why connection tools are never a shortcut past accountability, and how to use three free AffairHealing.com resources as rungs on a ladder, each asking for a little more vulnerability than the last.
You'll hear:
Why recovering couples so often lose their everyday conversations
What research on "bids for connection" says about the small moments
Why the betrayed partner gets to decide when they're ready
How even a positive question can land as a painful one, and what to do when it does
Ground rules that keep these conversations safe
A four-week challenge to start where you can (see below)
LINKS and EXTRAS
Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/076
Free App: Tell Me About It
Free Download: 160 Questions for Couples
Free Exercise: 1 Week of Sex Talk
Episode 74: Go FFISHing: What’s Beneath Your Anger?
Building Us Course & Coaching
4 WEEK CHALLENGE
Week 1: Once a day, answer a prompt from the Tell Me About It app.
Week 2: Each day, use either the Tell Me About It app or questions from the first two sections of the 160 Questions list to start a conversation.
Week 3: Each day, use questions from the “Questions About You” and “Questions About Your Relationship” sections of the 160 Questions list.
Week 4: Use the 1 Week of Sex Talk guide for your conversations.
