How To Stop Your 'Good Girl' Playing By Other People's Rules - Lian Brook-Tyler

If you keep saying "yes" when your whole body is screaming "no", here's what's actually driving that, and what it takes to change it. In this episode, Lian Brook-Tyler, goes back to where the "good girl" first learned her trade, the moments in childhood, somewhere around four, five, six years old, when a small child worked out that a "yes" could keep the peace, keep the love coming, keep a parent or teacher from turning cold.  Lian looks at why that pattern stops feeling like a strategy and starts feeling like personality, and why the body carries it long after the mind knows the danger has passed. Lian moves into why logic never wins the argument with her, why forcing, reasoning, or shaming that part rarely works, and what it actually takes, a slow build of inner authority, someone steadier for her to finally hand the reins to, and what it looks like to speak a "no" when that's the truer answer. Listen if you've ever felt a real "no" rising in you, in a meeting, in a relationship, at the dinner table, and felt your throat tighten or your words soften before they leave your mouth. We’d love to know what YOU think about this week’s show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment wherever you are listening or in any of our other spaces to engage. What you’ll learn from this e: Why the "good girl" was built to keep you safe rather than obedient, and why that distinction matters How the body keeps running old calculations long after the literal danger has passed What it actually takes to become someone she trusts enough to hand the reins to, and how that lets a true "no" get spoken Resources and stuff that we spoke about: Join UNIO, The Community for Wild Sovereign Souls https://www.unioacademy.com/ : This is for the old souls in this new world… Discover your kin & unite with your soul’s calling to truly live your myth. Wild Sovereign Soul Join our mailing list for soul stirring goodness: https://www.wildsovereignsoul.com/moonly Discover your kin & unite with your soul’s calling to truly live your myth: https://wildsovereignsoul.com/unio Go Deeper: https://wildsovereignsoul.com/godeeper Follow us: Facebook Instagram YouTube Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode released each week here and on most podcast platforms - and video too on YouTube. If you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your device every week automagically. (that way you'll never miss a show).