Lydia spent more than a decade thriving in high-pressure environments, from working as an infantry soldier, paratrooper and team leader to leading corporate strategy and marketing for some of North America’s biggest brands.
She was capable, productive and very good under pressure. She was also working up to 120 hours a week, using busyness to manage anxiety and slowly losing the capacity her body needed for sleep, digestion, recovery, pleasure and sex.
In this personal episode of Turned On, Lydia shares how someone who historically wanted sex every day could suddenly go three or four months without thinking about it, and why it took her so long to connect that change with the much bigger picture of what her body had been managing.
She explores what low libido actually looked like for her, from feeling like she couldn’t be bothered to struggling to stay mentally present during sex. She also talks about initially blaming her hormones, SSRIs and possible perimenopause, the physical warning signs she overlooked and why continuing to function convinced her she was fine long after she had run out of capacity.
This isn’t a story about humming, touching grass or regulating your nervous system until your libido magically returns. It’s about learning to recognize your own baseline, noticing when something meaningful changes and asking a better question.
Not: What the hell is wrong with me?
But: What has my body been dealing with?
Because your libido might not actually be the problem. It might be one of the clues.
If you’re tired of guessing why your libido changed, book a call with Lydia at thelibidoclinic.com/call.
