Somewhere in your house there's an unfinished thing. A course you were loving. A project that had you buzzing. Half a book. And every time you think about it — that little sting.
In this episode I read Part 5 of my series on don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: the Fourth Agreement, Always Do Your Best — the agreement that makes the other three sustainable, and the one that finally changed my relationship with finishing things.
Ruiz's insight is not what it sounds like. Your best is not a fixed standard: it changes hour to hour, day to day, and both your best on a great morning and your best on an empty evening count completely. I also bring in Katherine Morgan Schafler's work on perfectionism types — including the messy perfectionist, in love with beginnings and allergic to middles — and Julia Cameron's insight from The Artist's Way that creativity lives in the doing, not the done.
In this episode:
• Why your best today is not your best tomorrow — and why both count fully
• Perfectionism as a phenomenon, not a flaw: Katherine Morgan Schafler's five types
• The messy perfectionist: superstar at starting, allergic to the middle
• Julia Cameron's Censor — and why its job is to stop you making anything at all
• How doing your honest best closes the gap the inner critic needs to operate
• Action as the antidote to rumination
READ AND FOLLOW THE SERIES
The full essay, visual guide, and free two-page cheat sheet:
https://fouragreements.8notes.co.uk/?ep=5
The essay on Substack: https://8notes.substack.com
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With Adrian Melrose · Plain Talk Matters · 8Notes
adrianmelrose.com · plaintalk.co.uk · 8notes.co.uk
Books and references in this episode:
The Four Agreements — don Miguel Ruiz
The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control — Katherine Morgan Schafler
The Artist's Way — Julia Cameron
