
You Can Have a Conscious, Sexy Threesome By Embracing the Awkward - ft. Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com
Monica hosts sex educator Reid Mihalko in a tree house outside Portland, Oregon, to discuss how to make threesomes conscious, less awkward, and more fun. Reid shares key principles from his "Negotiating Successful Threesomes" class, including defining what "success" means, deciding whether to play with people you know or strangers, and seeking partners who have already had successful threesomes. They emphasize expanding what counts as sex, going slow, and reducing pressure by "putting more crayons in the crayon box." Reid explains safer-sex communication, testing, and harm-reduction strategies, and offers his Embrace the Awkward Formula for starting when things get quiet. They also cover check-ins/timeouts, handling jealousy or feeling left out, not forcing sex, and damage control when a threesome goes sideways, plus where to find Reid's resources and calendar.
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00:00 Welcome and Guests
02:10 Why Threesomes Feel Awkward
04:41 Defining Threesome Success
06:34 Known vs Strangers
07:29 Find Experienced Partners
08:06 Poly vs Swinging Needs
13:07 Expand What Counts
15:50 Safer Sex Talk
17:23 Starting the Action
18:05 Embrace the Awkward
18:56 Trigger Phrase Setup
19:19 Make a Clear Ask
20:40 Melt List Ideas
22:09 Help Them Start
23:21 Speed Orgy Story
24:39 Check Ins and Timeouts
26:42 Pivot When Off
28:53 Feeling Left Out
30:17 Jealousy and Performance
31:45 Mediocre Is Fine
32:56 Damage Control Steps
35:45 Wrap Up and Projects