What makes rope hot — and when should you knot?
Jon and Craig are joined by internationally renowned kink educator, author and authenticity instigator Lee Harrington for a deep dive into rope bondage, Shibari and the connections we create when we tie — or get tied.
Forget the idea that rope is only for impossibly bendy Instagram models dangling dramatically from ceilings. Lee explores rope as communication: a way to play, connect, be vulnerable, get creative and discover what works for the body actually in front of you.
Along the way, we unpack the difference between Shibari and rope bondage, how to negotiate a scene, adapting rope for different bodies and abilities, recognising nerve and circulation issues, planning for when things go wrong, and why a safeword isn’t always enough when it might take ten minutes to untie the human pretzel you’ve created.
Then we loosen the ropes and talk aftercare, top drop, finding teachers who actually know what they’re doing, and why confidence isn’t necessarily the same thing as competence.
Whether you’re an experienced rigger, an enthusiastic bottom, or you’ve never tied anything more complicated than a tarp to the back of a ute, this episode is your invitation to get curious, communicate — and maybe get a little tied up.
Resources and Further Reading
Lee Harrington / Passion & Soul
Lee’s home for writing, education, classes, appearances and other kink and sexuality resources.
https://www.passionandsoul.com/
https://www.passionandsoul.com/kink
Evie Vane
Author of Better Bondage for Every Body, with a focus on adapting bondage for different bodies, mobility and flexibility.
Shay Tiziano
Author of Tying & Flying: Bondage for Self-Suspension, covering self-bondage, self-suspension and safer practice.
Jake Ernst — Routes of Safety
Creator of the Routes of Safety framework, exploring different ways people regulate, reconnect and return to a sense of safety.
Kinky Sam Jones
YouTube resources including kink and submissive homework exercises.
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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.
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