Empty Tank Failed Mission:The Truth About Self-Care in Marriage | The Fourth Phase Podcast Ep 4

You can't show up to your marriage with a half-empty tank.

In this Swim Buddy episode, JJ and Kristel get into the truth about self-care , why it's not selfish, why it's mission readiness for marriage, and how to support your partner without guilt or resentment.

We disagree. We push back. We get to something real.

If you've ever felt guilty taking time for yourself, or watched your partner run on empty , this one's for you.

What we cover:

- Why self-care isn't selfish

- The martyr trap most couples fall into

- How rest can be your version of self-care

- The 5-step playbook for couples

- Why scheduling self-care is a discipline, not a luxury

In memory of Charlie Keating IV — 10 years gone but never forgotten.

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