"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside."
Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter.
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Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:
- Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down the danger of negative self-talk, body image perceptions, her book Manifesto, and why you must build self-respect and self-belief before letting anyone into your life.
- Dilemma 2 (Too Picky vs. Settling & The 'Zaza Zoo'): Is keeping high standards being 'too stush,' or is settling a recipe for disaster? Candice defends the need for the 'zaza zoo' spark, while Bode steps in with a major reality check on 'potential,' status badges (money, cars, titles), and why the most important thing is finding someone you actually like when 'life lifes' in the trenches.
- Dating as Data Collection: Bode's perspective on hacking your way to love and why status badges can be removed at any moment.
No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.
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- Produced by: Undeniable Productions
- Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin
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