Looking for some creative ways to expand your sexual repertoire with your partner? Curious about BDSM? Ever wondered where to start as a couple interested in BDSM?
In this interview with artist and facilitator Zen Steady, he shares his passion for Sacred Kink, BDSM, Neo-Tantra, Shibari and Kinbaku.
Zen explains the differences between mainstream portrayals of BDSM, such as in '50 Shades of Grey,' and the more intentional, presence-based approach of sacred kink, which emphasizes communication, boundaries, consent, and the receiver's experience. He details practical steps for couples new to BDSM, including discussing boundaries, desires, and fears, and starting with simple rituals and safe words (traffic light system) to ensure safety and comfort.
The conversation covers creative ways to introduce kink, such as role play and different types of touch inspired by the elements (earth, water, air, fire), and recommended starting with accessible tools like feathers or household items before progressing to more advanced implements like ropes or paddles.
Zen also highlights the importance of aftercare and feedback following scenes, and addressed concerns or fears newcomers might have, suggesting a gradual, communicative approach.
Zen notes that the core principles of presence, communication, and intentionality are universally valuable for deepening intimacy.
Follow Zen or book a session with him at:
https://www.instagram.com/zensteady/
https://templemystic.org/
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