Episode 25: The Male Perspective on a Successful Donor Conception.

We’re pregnant. After a year of male factor infertility and deciding to move forward with donor sperm, our first IUI worked.

But a positive pregnancy test brought up emotions neither of us fully expected.

In this episode, Matt opens up about what it feels like to find out your wife is pregnant with a donor-conceived child—the excitement of finally getting to become a dad alongside the grief of knowing he won’t be the biological father.

We talk about why congratulations suddenly felt complicated, the moment donor conception stopped being hypothetical and became our reality, and why grief doesn’t disappear just because treatment worked.

We also get into Sidney’s failed attempt to surprise Matt with the pregnancy, what we wish we had understood about each other going into that moment, and how differently we’ve each processed this transition.

This episode is an honest conversation about something we don’t hear talked about enough: what donor conception can feel like for the dad—and how gratitude, excitement, grief, and loss can all exist at the same time.