Get ready for a lively, honest, and deeply practical conversation as Darshana sits down with Amy Baldwin to talk about the one thing most people are not taught how to do: talk about sex.
Amy shares her personal evolution from a sexually curious young adult who lacked language, to a seasoned sex educator, toy expert, top podcast host and retreat facilitator who has spent years helping people communicate their desires with confidence. Together, they explore what makes sexual conversations feel so edgy, how shame and patriarchy shape our silence, and why accountability and repair are essential to long-term intimacy.
They also dive into sex toys, pleasure hierarchies, performance pressure, and how to introduce new desires into an existing relationship without blowing it up.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Why most people were never modeled healthy sexual communication
- The difference between “talking about sex” and “talking about talking about sex”
- How to ask for permission before initiating a vulnerable conversation
- Why appreciation should lead hard conversations
- A step-by-step way to introduce toys or new desires
- The importance of negotiation instead of shutdown
- How to respond when your partner says no
- Why accountability builds deeper intimacy than perfection
- The myth of sexual performance pressure, especially for men
- Why pleasure has no hierarchy
- How to move from compromise to collaboration
About Amy:
Amy Baldwin is a sex and relationship coach trained in both the Somatica® and Hakomi Methods, certified sex educator, lead educator for Uberlube, co-owner of a mother-daughter owned online pleasure boutique called Pure Pleasure Shop, as well as co-host of the Shameless Sex podcast.
To learn more, or to order Shameless Sex's latest book Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For, visit shamelesssex.com.
Connect with Amy:
Website: shamelesssex.com
Instagram: @amyshamelesssex @shamelesssexpodcast
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