How To Stop Chasing What You Think You Should Want - Inner Circle Ep 22

What if the question wasn't how to get what you want, but how to identify what you want in the first place?

In this episode of The Inner Circle, Mike and Kevin sit with the question that lies beneath the inherited definition of success. The conversation moves from coaching clients who cannot answer that question to a framework Mike uses to build his calendar from the inside out.

They discuss:

Why high performers are often the worst at answering this question, and what years of compartmentalization have to do with it

The "keep asking why" method that turns a net worth target into the actual feeling you are chasing underneath it

Why your ideal life is not a bucket list of accomplishments but a state of being you can start designing today

The 80/20 principle of time ownership, and why controlling more than eighty percent of your calendar is actually dangerous

How to identify your three to five non-negotiables and let everything else stack around them

Why the trade-offs are not the problem — not naming them is

Most people never define what they want because it feels self-indulgent or too far away. This episode makes the case that not defining it is the most expensive decision you will ever make.

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Kevin Dahlstrom: https://x.com/Camp4

Mike Brown: https://x.com/mbrown_co