Why You’re Attracted to the Wrong People — And How to Break the Pattern | Sheleana Aiyana

Why do we keep choosing relationships that hurt us—and mistake the chaos for chemistry? Limited Time Offer – Make healthy eating simple. Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code MASTRY at huel.com/MASTRY (http://huel.com/[CODE]). New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!  Sheleana Aiyana, bestselling author of Becoming the One and founder of Rising Woman, joins Francesca to unpack how childhood wounds shape who we love, why healthy relationships can initially feel boring, and what it actually takes to break toxic relationship patterns. From foster care, addiction and abusive relationships to building a conscious marriage and helping millions of women heal, Sheleana shows what’s possible when you stop trying to find the one — and start becoming the one.  What you’ll learn: Why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns How abandonment wounds affect attraction and conflict Why healthy love can feel boring after chaotic relationships How anxious and avoidant attachment feed each other Why a secure partner won’t heal you How to stop chasing, rescuing and self-abandoning What it actually means to “become the one” How Sheleana transformed her relationship with her mother wound Why female friendship and sisterhood are essential to healthy love How somatic healing, hypnobreathwork and nervous system work can change who you’re attracted to TIMESTAMPS: 07:30 How early wounds shape attraction 14:40 Abandonment and anxious attachment 20:54 Why familiarity feels like chemistry 32:10 What makes a relationship conscious 36:00 Healing changes who attracts you 38:42 Partnership unlocks deeper healing 48:54 Generosity as relationship medicine CONNECT WITH SHELEANA AIYANA: Website: RisingWoman.com & SheleanaAiyana.com Instagram: @RisingWoman (https://www.instagram.com/risingwoman/) @SheleanaAiyana (https://www.instagram.com/sheleanaaiyana/) Youtube:@RisingWoman (https://www.youtube.com/@RisingWoman) Facebook: @RisingWomanOfficial @SheleanaAiyana Books: Becoming The One Book (https://courses.risingwoman.com/btobook) Becoming The One Journal (https://sheleanaaiyana.com/becoming-the-one-book-journal/)Thank You For This Day (https://a.co/d/0b0bOQxw) The Four Seasons of Heartbreak (https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/804180/the-four-seasons-of-heartbreak-by-sheleana-aiyana/) Connect with Francesca Sipma & The Mastry Experience: Website: francescasipma.com | mastryexperience.com Instagram:@francescasipma (https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.instagram.com/francescasipma) &@mastryexperience (https://www.instagram.com/mastryexperience)Recommended Mastry app session:HEALING HEARTBREAK (http://app.mastry.me/s/jfGlaS). Subscribe and follow for more! Mastry Experience's YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@mastryexperience) Mastry Experience’s Spotify Podcast (https://open.spotify.com/show/4Op50ZHIJ2IGWMnSOniwL1?si=x_HQ7FufTeKyndMt7sH4tg) Mastry Experience’s Apple Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mastry-experience/id1851858335) Mastry Experience’s TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@themastryexperience) Mastry Experience’s Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/mastryexperience/)