What if everyone around you thinks you’re successful, confident, and strong—but inside, you’re still wondering if you’re enough?
In this bonus coaching episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah reflects on her conversation with singer, songwriter, and author Machan Taylor and one of the most powerful lessons from Machan’s story: success doesn’t automatically heal the wounds we carry.
Machan performed on some of the biggest stages in the world with legendary artists, yet she shared that she could stand in front of hundreds of thousands of people and still experience imposter syndrome and wonder whether she truly belonged.
And you don’t have to be standing on a stage to understand that feeling.
Sometimes we hide behind our careers, accomplishments, relationships, perfectionism, or simply saying, “I’m fine.”
We become so good at surviving and taking care of everyone else that we lose sight of ourselves.
In This Bonus Episode:
Coach Deborah explores:
- Why success doesn't always create self-worth
- How childhood trauma can affect our adult relationships
- Why we sometimes repeat unhealthy relationship patterns
- The difference between choosing what is healthy and choosing what is familiar
- How emotional abuse can slowly change the way you see yourself
- Why high-achieving women can still struggle with imposter syndrome
- What it means to lose yourself in a relationship
- How to stop trying to prove that you're enough
- Rebuilding your confidence after divorce or emotional abuse
- Finding your voice and trusting yourself again
- Starting over and reinventing yourself later in life
- Why your age does not determine what comes next
Ask Yourself These Three Questions
Where in my life am I still trying to prove that I'm enough?
What old story about myself am I carrying that may no longer be true?
If I truly believed I was already enough, what would I do differently?
You don't have to change everything today.
Sometimes rebuilding begins by simply recognizing the patterns, beliefs, and old stories that are keeping you stuck.
It Is Never Too Late to Start Over
Whether you're 40, 50, 60, 70, or beyond, there is no expiration date on becoming the woman you want to be.
Your past may explain parts of your story, but it doesn't have to write the ending.
You don't have to become the woman you were before everything happened.
Maybe you're meant to become someone even stronger, wiser, and more authentic.
If you haven't heard Coach Deborah's full conversation with Machan Taylor, be sure to listen to “She Sang with Pink Floyd—but Still Felt She Wasn't Enough.”
And remember—you may have been bent by what happened to you, but you get to decide what happens next.
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