Get Off the Merry-Go-RoundDATING ISN’T JUST ABOUT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON. IT’S ABOUT PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT EACH RELATIONSHIP IS SHOWING YOU.Dating gets messy when chemistry, attraction, old wounds, and hope start speaking louder than the evidence in front of us.In this episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana sits down with speaker, author, and coach Dr. Wendy to talk about dating differently—slowing down, observing patterns, healing between relationships, and learning to recognize and participate in a healthy relationship.After two divorces, Dr. Wendy found herself asking an important question: How could she be successful in so many areas of life yet continue getting relationships wrong?That question led her to examine childhood experiences, emotional wounds, attraction, and the patterns she kept repeating.Together, Ana and Wendy unpack one of the most important principles in dating: dating is data.Dating gives you information. How does someone communicate? Do their actions match their words? How do they handle conflict? Do they respect boundaries? Are they accountable?Chemistry matters—but chemistry cannot carry a relationship.They discuss how childhood experiences shape adult attraction, why familiar doesn't necessarily mean healthy, and why people can repeat the same relationship with different partners.They also explore the importance of taking a real reset after a breakup instead of immediately jumping into another connection. What did you ignore? What pattern are you repeating? What needs to change before you choose again?Ana and Wendy talk about giving people too much access too quickly, falling for potential, ignoring red flags, and staying on the same relationship merry-go-round hoping for a different outcome.They also discuss faith and discernment. Prayer matters, but prayer isn't a substitute for wisdom. You still have to observe, ask questions, listen, and pay attention to what someone's behavior is telling you.Sometimes getting off the merry-go-round means accepting that chemistry isn't enough, potential isn't enough, and promises aren't enough.Date reality. Pay attention to patterns. Use the data.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN• Why “dating is data” changes how you approach relationships• How childhood experiences influence attraction• Why familiar doesn't always mean healthy• Why people repeat relationship patterns• What a dating reset looks like after a breakup• Why giving too much access too quickly can work against you• Why intentional dating requires patience and observation• How to stop falling in love with potential• Why actions matter more than promises• How faith, wisdom, and discernment work together• Why you don't need another adult as a project• How to know when it's time to get off the merry-go-round• How to move through a breakup without immediately rebounding• Why creating a life you love changes how you date• Why waiting can be preparation, not punishmentREAD DR. WENDY'S BOOKDating and Waiting with God explores intentional dating, patience, discernment, faith, and preparing yourself for a healthy relationship.READ UNAVAILABLEIf you keep finding yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people, ignoring red flags, or falling for potential, Unavailable goes deeper into why.https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE](https://amzn.to/4tOQDUEBOOK A COACHING SESSIONReady to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and get clarity?https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlyEXTRA RESOURCESAttachment Style Quizhttps://quiz.attachmentproject.comEnneagram Quizhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-testFOLLOW DR WENDYhttps://www.instagram.com/datingandwaitingwithgod?igsi=ZnVvMGxiMjJnc3J0www.resetdr.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@dating.and.waitin?_r=1&_t=ZP-99M94KGCbvShttps://www.instagram.com/drwendy2u?igsi=d2wxaHhrZ3l5cDJs&utm_source=qr
