Cyrano in Your Pocket: AI, Loneliness and Real Connection
More men and teens are turning to chatbots for advice and connection, and those platforms make money by telling you what you want to hear. Family safety expert Andy Murphy (The Secure Dad) and men's coach Jason Lange (Evolutionary Men) dig into what that means for families, relationships and our own minds. It's my most positive show ever.
- AI and digital scams are now the top danger Andy sees for families, including fake car-accident calls from scammers pretending to be your kid.
- Divorce now means untangling your digital life too, starting with the phone plan an ex can track you through.
- Chatbots are built to agree with you because engagement pays. Use AI to reflect on yourself, not to replace people.
- In a UCLA therapy-bot study, servicemen with PTSD opened up more because the bot couldn't judge them.
- Couples using AI to write their texts are Cyrano and Roxanne all over again. Talking face to face and handling conflict still matter.
- Mental atrophy is real. People who grew up offline had time to develop the taste to know when AI is wrong.
- Andy brings up Plato's cave, and he explains how he uses ChatGPT for show notes and images.
**Guests**
**Andy Murphy** founded The Secure Dad in 2016 to help families live safer, happier lives. He hosts The Secure Family Podcast, which is nearing episode 400 after 10 years and covers everything from online scams to hurricane prep.
**Jason Lange** is a men's coach and group facilitator. He leads men's groups, retreats and coaching, often out in nature, and hosts the Evolutionary Men podcast.
**Links**
Andy Murphy:
- [The Secure Dad site](https://www.thesecuredad.com)
- [Secure Family Podcast on Apple](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secure-dad-podcast/id1438284738)
- [Instagram @thesecuredad](https://www.instagram.com/thesecuredad/)
- [X @TheSecureDad](https://x.com/TheSecureDad)
Jason Lange:
- [Evolutionary Men site](https://evolutionary.men)
- [Evolutionary Men on Apple](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/evolutionary-men/id1480126686)
- [Evolutionary Men on Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/show/3hsDU7j6m1lMdo8b6HwP5Z)
- [Instagram @evolutionarymen](https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/)
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