When something you hoped for falls apart, what helps you try again?
SEASON 6: Friendship Authors. Episode 7
Failure can feel like evidence that we are not capable enough, especially when we turn one disappointing outcome into a story about who we are. In this episode of Friendship Matters, Donna and Lisa talk with Deborah Grayson Riegel, author of Aim High and Bounce Back, about changing our relationship with failure. Deb explains why resilience includes making room for disappointment, learning from what happened, and letting other people support us along the way.
In this conversation, you'll hear:
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Why failure can feel personal, and how to treat it as information instead of identity.
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How small experiments can help you build the courage to try again.
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Why rushing past grief can make it harder to move forward.
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Deb's three steps for bouncing back: ground, gather, and go.
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How to ask for help clearly and offer a friend the kind of support they actually need.
Why listen? If you are carrying a disappointment, avoiding a risk, or wondering how to help someone through a hard season, this conversation offers a more humane way forward. You do not need to have your feelings sorted out before you reach for a friend. And you do not have to find your next step alone.
Friendship Matters Guest
Deborah Grayson Riegel is a keynote speaker, executive coach, and consultant who has taught leadership communication for Wharton Business School, Duke's Fuqua Business School, Columbia Business School's Women in Leadership Program, and the Beijing International MBA Program at Peking University.
She writes on leadership communication and presentation skills for Harvard Business Review, Inc., Psychology Today, Forbes, and Fast Company, and has been featured in Bloomberg Businessweek, The Wall Street Journal, and The New York Times. Deborah's clients range from Amazon, Blackrock, and Google to J&J, NASA, and The United States Army.
She is the author of "Aim High and Bounce Back: A Successful Woman's Guide to Rethinking and Rising Up from Failure", Go to Help: 31 Strategies to Offer, Ask for, and Accept Help" and "Overcoming Overthinking: 36 Ways to Tame Anxiety for Work, School, and Life".
You can find her online at www.deborahgraysonriegel.com
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