You can’t make them change
You can love someone deeply and still not be able to change them.
In this episode, we dive into Chapters 14 & 15 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and explore one of the hardest truths in relationships: you can’t make someone else change.
We talk about:
• why pushing, nagging, and giving advice often backfires
• the three truths about motivation (and why change must come from within)
• why people choose short-term comfort over long-term growth
• and how your role isn’t to control – but to influence
We also break down what actually works instead:
👉 modeling the behavior you want to see
👉 letting go of control (without giving up care)
👉 and using the ABC loop to support change without pressure
Because the shift isn’t:
“How do I make them change?”
It’s:
“How do I show up in a way that makes change possible?”
Let them be who they are.
And let me decide how I show up.
This episode is about influence, boundaries and what real love actually looks like in practice.
📚 Book: The Let Them Theory
📚 Chapters: Motivating other people to change
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👯 Hosts: Sofia Stigendal & Marielle Almquist
🎧 Editing: Elmer Hermansson
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