Sometimes you can want love with your whole heart and still have a part of you doing everything it can to keep it at a distance.
You can have the standards, do the inner work, and know deep down now what kind of relationship you want.
You can spend years waiting for something healthy and aligned… and still find yourself wondering why love doesn’t seem to happen the way you’ve hoped it would.
In this hypnocoaching session, we explore that exact tension.
She came into the session feeling like there had to be some kind of subconscious block around love. She’d spent most of her adult life single, and when relationships did come along, she noticed a painful pattern: she would hold onto her standards for a long time, eventually meet someone who checked most of the boxes, make excuses for what was missing… and end up in another relationship that didn’t work.
But when we went underneath the pattern, the “block” wasn’t what you might expect.
This session became less about forcing a block to disappear and more about understanding why it existed in the first place, appreciating what it had been trying to do, and beginning to create a different relationship with love, safety, and trust.
What You’ll Hear:
- Why wanting a relationship consciously doesn’t always mean every part of you feels safe receiving one
- The protective part that surfaced when we explored what was blocking love
- How an early relationship shaped beliefs about strength, safety, and what love could feel like
- The connection between loneliness, standards and choosing someone you already sense isn’t right for you
- Why self-trust became such an important part of the session
- What happened in her body when we started talking about truly holding her standards
- The fear underneath the question, “What if I’m alone for another ten years?”
- How we worked with the part of her that had been protecting her for 23 years
- The shift from needing protection from love to creating safety within herself
- What it can look like to become available for a relationship without abandoning yourself to get one
Resources and Links
- Want help identifying the subconscious pattern beneath the area where you feel stuck? Take the free five-minute Spot the Block assessment at spottheblock.app.
- Ready to explore your patterns with deeper, personalized support? Click here to book your Connection Call.
- Apply to be coached on the podcast at shiftyourstorypodcast.com.
- Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook.
Your Next Steps
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If you’ve been telling yourself you want love while also noticing that relationships keep following a familiar pattern, get curious about the part of you that might be trying to protect you.
Because some of the patterns we’re frustrated with today were created at a time when they genuinely felt necessary.
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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.
