The Orgasm Gap: Why Most Women Are Left Behind

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Understanding how your home environment shapes your sexual development is key to healthy relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Debra Durst sits down with New York Times best-selling author and AASECT-certified sex therapist Ian Kerner to unpack the orgasm gap, desire discrepancy, and the communication breakdowns that quietly shape a couple's sex life.
Ian is the author of She Comes First and He Comes Next, and co-founder of the sex therapy training program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York City. He and Dr. Durst talk through the questions couples avoid, the beliefs that hold people back, and what actually closes the gap between mismatched partners.


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Why only about 30% of women orgasm from intercourse alone  and what changes that number to 70–80%
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and why it causes so much friction between partners
Why psychological erectile dysfunction in younger men is often mistreated as a purely physical problem
How "sex-avoidant" upbringing shapes the way adults talk (or don't talk) about sex in their own relationships
Why physicians rarely raise sexual health, and where couples can turn instead

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🌟 About Dr. Debra Durst
As founder and CEO of RevitalyzeMD, Dr. Debra Durst brings 25+ years of expertise in regenerative medicine, aesthetics, and sexual wellness. Her mission is to help women and men look great, feel great, and experience their best sexual health at every age through personalized, evidence-based care.

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