A few weeks ago we posted a reel about the roles each parent plays in a special needs marriage. It passed 70,000 views and lit up our comments, so this week we're unpacking what we actually meant.
Jeff said one of us drew "the short end of the stick," and it ruffled feathers. In this episode we clarify that comment, talk through the roles of breadwinner and caregiver, and get honest about the resentment and burnout that nobody warns you about. After 24 years, here's how we've split the load without losing each other.
CHAPTERS
0:00 The viral reel and why context gets lost
1:45 What "the short end of the stick" really meant
2:38 Secondhand medical info and surprise medication costs
7:45 Deciding our roles before we even had kids
11:16 How resentment and caregiver burnout creep in
13:42 Why special needs divorces mirror regular ones, only magnified
21:24 Personality decides roles, not gender stereotypes
26:09 Why denial is one of the most dangerous things in our world
29:06 How your roles shift as your child grows
31:04 The jobs that became Dad's, from reading to infusions
34:18 "I'm off the clock" and why the caregiver needs real breaks
47:31 Balancing a neurotypical sibling
52:25 What 24 years has actually taught us
53:35 Next week: our first guest, Julie Erman
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