I asked a simple question on social media:
"Why didn't you have sex today?"
The comments exploded.
Men and women from all over — in relationships, in marriages, in situations they'd never talked about publicly — started sharing the real reasons sex keeps getting pushed to the back burner.
And what came up wasn't what most people expect.
It wasn't just busyness. It wasn't just kids or exhaustion or stress.
It was deeper than that.
Resentment that never got addressed. Touch that stopped feeling safe. Desire that quietly died while life kept moving. Two people sharing a bed who stopped truly connecting somewhere along the way — and neither one knew exactly when it happened.
In this episode I go through those comments — the real ones, from real people — and dive into what's actually keeping couples from having sex in their day to day lives.
Because this isn't a small problem.
Research consistently shows that sexual disconnection is one of the leading drivers of relationship dissatisfaction, emotional distance, and eventually — separation.
And yet most couples never have a direct conversation about it.
In this episode we explore:
- The most common reasons couples stop having regular sex — and what's underneath each one
- Why busyness is rarely the real reason
- How resentment, unspoken needs, and emotional distance quietly kill desire
- Why touch becomes loaded — and what it takes to make it feel safe again
- The difference between a relationship that has hit a dry spell and one that is genuinely disconnected
- What the research actually says about how often couples are having sex — and what that's costing them
- How men and women experience sexual disconnection differently
- What it takes to not end up there — and how to find your way back if you already are
- Why the conversation about sex is more important than the sex itself
This episode isn't about blame.
It isn't about making anyone wrong for where they are.
It's about bringing one of the most avoided conversations in relationships into the light — because the couples who talk about it are the ones who stay connected.
And the ones who don't?
They wake up one day and wonder what happened.
The question isn't just why you didn't have sex today.
👉 The question is — what are you building toward together?
🎧 Listen to Episode 87 now and start the conversation.
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