Chill vlog #28: when does adversity become trauma? & why i talk about my ADHD so much

Today’s vlog gets unexpectedly philosophical:

• Watching a baby swimming lesson and debating whether putting children through discomfort helps them grow or can become trauma
• Where the line is between adversity that makes you stronger and experiences that have lasting negative effects
• How parents are supposed to know when to push a child versus protect them
• Responding to a comment asking why I talk about my ADHD so much
• Why getting diagnosed later in life changed how I understand myself
• Whether labels like ADHD and autism are useful, limiting, or simply shortcuts that help us communicate
• Peter’s thoughts on needing an actual diagnosis before using a label
• Why people naturally create labels, tribes and communities
• Whether our Asian/collectivist backgrounds might have influenced how naturally our four-person relationship feels to us