In Today’s Episode: Are You Ready to Date?
Join us as we talk with Cody Isabel — cognitive neuroscientist, IFS practitioner, TDL host, and founder of Becoming Her — who shares his insights on healing heartbreak, navigating “the gap,” and rebuilding your identity using neuroscience rather than cliché dating advice.
Key Takeaways from Today’s Episode:
Why social media programs your expectations and shapes your dating reality
What “the gap” is and why most people get stuck there after a breakup
How neuroscience + IFS can help you rebuild your patterns, identity, and confidence before you date again
Questions We Answer in This Episode:
How do you know if you’re genuinely ready to date again?
Why do high-achievers struggle the most in heartbreak and healing?
What makes Becoming Her different from traditional therapy or self-help content?
Becoming Her Sources:
IFS Research: https://ifs-institute.com/resources/research
Neuroscience:
Leaf, C., & Wasserman, C. (2024). Habit Formation and Automaticity: Psychoneurobiological Correlates of Sustained Behavior Change. NeuroRegulation, 11(1). https://www.neuroregulation.org/article/view/23416
Leaf, C. (2021). Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess: 5 Simple, Scientifically Proven Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking. Baker Books.
Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsp.674
Gardner, B., Lally, P., & Wardle, J. (2012). Making health habitual: The psychology of ‘habit-formation’ and general practice. British Journal of General Practice, 62(605), 664–666. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3505409/
Kaushal, N., & Rhodes, R. E. (2015). Exercise habit formation in new gym members: A longitudinal study. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, 38, 652–663.
Kilb, K., et al. (2024). Time to form a habit: A systematic review and meta-analysis of health behavior automaticity. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 15. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11641623/
