What if getting older isn’t about becoming less of yourself, but finally giving yourself permission to become more of who you are?
Jami sits down with longtime friend Tina Bernard, founder of The Badass Arts, for a candid conversation about resilience, big emotions, relationships, personal growth, and what it means to live “bigly with sass and soul.”
Tina shares how a chaotic childhood shaped her resilience, why healing requires more than simply surviving what happened to us, and how she learned to recognize and interrupt patterns that were no longer serving her. Together, she and Jami also talk about the freedom that can come with getting older and redefining menopause and aging on your own terms.
In This Episode
- What it means to live with “sass, soul and substance”
- Why big emotions can give us useful information
- Simple ways to pause and respond instead of react
- Resilience, healing, and breaking familiar patterns
- Letting go of the “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve”
- Friendship breakups, grief, and changing relationships
- Why knowing something isn’t the same as actually practicing it
- “Self-help” versus “shelf-help”
- Why small, consistent practices can matter more than collecting more information
- Redefining what menopause and aging can look like
- Giving yourself permission to live more authentically as you get older
From Self-Help to “Shelf-Help”
For fast-moving and creative minds, learning can become its own form of procrastination. Tina jokes that all those unread self-help books sitting on the shelf aren't self-help at all. They're “shelf-help.”
Instead of constantly searching for the next book, podcast, or solution, Tina encourages choosing one practice and actually trying it. As Jami puts it, so many of us are always thinking, “This is gonna be the thing that sticks.” Sometimes the better approach is simply picking one thing and starting there. Episode 108 - Redefining Menopa…
Redefining Menopause and Aging
Jami and Tina also reflect on what it means to be a Gen X woman getting older. Rather than following an old idea of what women are supposed to look or act like at a certain age, they’re interested in defining it for themselves.
As Jami says, she’d happily banish the phrase “anti-aging.” Aging is happening. The question is how we choose to do it. Episode 108 - Redefining Menopa…
About Tina Bernard
Tina Bernard is the founder of The Badass Arts, a platform focused on helping people recognize and interrupt patterns that no longer serve them and put personal growth into practice. Her philosophy centers on resilience, authenticity, compassion, and what she calls living with soul, sass and substance. Episode 108 - Redefining Menopa…
About Jami Shapiro
Jami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, author of This Explains So Much, host of Grandma Has ADHD, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Her work focuses on ADHD, aging, life transitions, clutter, and helping people better understand how their brains work.
Resources
- The Badass Arts: thebadassarts.com
- Badass Arts Collective on Facebook
- Tina Bernard Official on Facebook
- Jami Shapiro: jamishapiro.me
- Grandma Has ADHD: grandmahasadhd.com
- Silver Linings Transitions: silverliningstransitions.com
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