You Don’t Get to Correct Everyone (And Shouldn't)

And it might be taking you to hell. When should you correct another Catholic… and when should you stay silent? Many Catholics sincerely want to defend the truth, but good intentions are not enough. In this episode, Dan and Jordan explore one of the most neglected virtues in the Church today: charitable correction. Drawing from Scripture, the wisdom of the saints, and hard lessons learned through years of ministry, they unpack why many attempts at “fraternal correction” actually become sins of pride, rash judgment, and speech. Together they discuss Christ’s teaching in Matthew 18, St. Paul’s description of charity in 1 Corinthians 13, and practical principles for discerning whether you should speak at all. They also examine real-world examples involving public figures, online debates, and the unique dangers of social media, showing why being right is not enough. Truth must always be spoken with humility, patience, and genuine love for the other person’s salvation. In this episode: Why not every battle belongs to you The difference between defending truth and defending your ego What Matthew 18 actually teaches about correction Why private conversations should come before public criticism The importance of earning “a seat at someone’s table” How charity changes the way we speak Why assumptions are often forms of rash judgment The danger of online Catholic outrage How to know whether God is calling you to speak or remain silent The goal of correction is never humiliation. It is always the salvation of souls.