Do you ever feel like you're living on autopilot?
Kids, the job, the routine, and somewhere along the way you stopped choosing any of it.
That gap between the life you have and the one you want is what Andrew Horsfield calls the messy middle.
In this episode, we sit down with Andrew, a consultant, coach and host of The Messy Middle podcast, who has spent 18 years helping leaders, athletes and professionals find their way through it.
We unpack why so many of us drift through life by default, and the small, practical shifts that get you moving again.
We explore the stories we carry from childhood, how they end up running our adult lives, and why the work of changing them feels so uncomfortable while you're in it.
Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:
- Why feeling stuck is often a lack of direction, and how to find it in five minutes between meetings
- "Transition with intention": the three questions that stop you walking in the door as the CEO at home
- Why your phone habit might be a story problem, and what Scott's "my clients own me until 7pm" did to him
- How moving schools seven times built Andrew's people pleasing, and what it cost him as a leader
- Why real change feels yucky in the middle (and why that's a sign you're onto something)
- Andrew's small, medium and large reward folders, and the end-of-day reflection you can start tonight
If you've been waiting for one big breakthrough to change everything, this conversation gives you a few small steps you can take this week.
Connect with Andrew Horsfield:Website: https://andrewhorsfield.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewhorsfield/
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