Ep 160: Finding Connection & Healing Through Third Spaces w/ Matthew Smith

Ep 160 In this episode of Journey to Your Best Self, Brian and Tara O’Neil welcome Matthew Smith, founder of Northern NJ's fastest growing "third space", The Sanctuary, to discuss the transformative power of community, connection, and holistic well-being in recovery. Matthew shares his personal journey of resilience, highlighting how third spaces—community hubs beyond home and work—can be vital for social connection and healing. The conversation explores the role of mental health support groups, the impact of social media on real-life relationships, and why addiction is often rooted in trauma and disconnection rather than just personal failing. Matthew also shares how breathwork, honesty, and emotional release play essential roles in mental health and addiction recovery. This powerful discussion challenges societal norms and offers hope, encouragement, and actionable strategies for those seeking growth, healing, and a stronger sense of belonging.

Takeaways

• Connection is essential for mental health, recovery, and overall well-being.
• Third spaces foster community and provide an alternative to bars or isolating habits.
• Addiction is often a bonding issue, not just a personal failing—healing requires support, not just willpower.
• Breathwork and emotional release are powerful tools for healing trauma.
• Vulnerability fosters deeper relationships, allowing people to feel seen and supported.

Timestamps

(00:00) The Journey to Community and Connection
(08:01) Matthew’s Personal Recovery Story
(18:00) The Role of Third Spaces in Healing
(23:51) The Impact of Social Media on Connection
(30:04) Understanding Addiction and Community Support
(42:47) The Role of Willpower in Recovery
(49:12) The Power of Honesty and Emotional Release
(55:02) The Science and Spirituality of Breathwork
(01:03:14) Recommended Reads for Recovery and Growth
(01:08:19) Where to Find Matthew & The Sanctuary

Find out more about The Sanctuary at thesanctuarynj.com and follow on Instagram @thesanctuarynj.

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