Today is our season three finale. It has been an absolute privilege watching Rachel and Mike untangle their negative cycles, and they open today's session with the ultimate proof that the work is paying off.

When a major trigger hit just two nights ago, the script flipped entirely. Instead of his typical silent shutdown and her sharp tongue, Mike paused and shared the vulnerable feelings he was processing, allowing Rachel to meet him with compassion instead of anger. By slowing down, they turned what would have historically been a catastrophic fight into an opportunity to bond.

In this finale, we walk through the TEMPO framework (Trigger, Emotion, Meaning, Protection, Organization) that helped them get here. Mike also opens up about the paralyzing "doom and gloom" fear he carries when they go into a state of disconnection.

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