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How do you set friendship boundaries without feeling like a bad friend? And what happens when different expectations around time, money, travel, and generosity start creating resentment?
In this episode, we’re talking about adult friendships, people pleasing, friendship boundaries, communication, and money between friends — especially when being the “giving friend” starts to feel like a full-time job.
We answer a listener question about navigating different friend groups while staying true to your morals, protecting your energy, and still showing up for the people you love. We break down the difference between putting healthy effort into a friendship and constantly overextending yourself just to meet everyone else’s expectations.
We also get into why adult friendships naturally change as your life changes. The version of you who had time for daily phone calls may not have that same capacity during a busy season — and that doesn’t automatically make you a bad friend. We talk about setting realistic expectations, paying attention to what people consistently show you, checking on your “strong friends,” and why social media can make someone’s life look perfect when they may actually be struggling.
Then we tackle the viral conversation around Savannah James and April, first class vs. coach, and travel expectations between friends. Should you pay to upgrade your friends because you can afford it? Does having a high net worth mean you should always spend more? And when does generosity turn into entitlement?
We unpack pocket watching, financial boundaries, generosity, spiritual giving, lifestyle differences, and why someone else’s money should never become your expectation.
If you’re navigating changing friendships, struggling with people pleasing, or trying to create healthier boundaries around your time, energy, and money, this conversation is for you.
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