Love often starts as a drug. But what happens when the high wears off?
In this episode, John Kim explores the difference between “drug-based love” and “medicine-based love,” and why most relationships struggle when chemistry begins to settle. He talks about projection, love addiction, emotional growth, and how real healing begins when relationships stop being a place to escape yourself and become a place to return to yourself.
John also shares personal reflections on rebuilding life in Costa Rica after losing his home in Altadena, and how reinvention is shaping this new season of his life.
Key points covered:
• Why love feels intoxicating in the beginning
• The difference between chemistry and healing
• How projection shapes modern dating
• “Recess love” vs mature relational work
• Why repair matters more than avoiding conflict
• How healthy love can rewire old patterns and fears
Resources & mentions:
• John discusses his new book, Love Hard on Purpose
• Listeners who purchase the book get access to his private WhatsApp community
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🎙️ More about John:
📘 Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4
John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co
📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
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