“If my child cries, I’m doing something wrong”
So many parents feel stuck between two extremes — either never making changes to avoid upsetting their child, or being told they need to ignore the crying altogether.
But there is a middle ground.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to support your child’s emotions while still making changes around sleep — whether that’s weaning, moving away from nursing or rocking to sleep, or setting new boundaries overnight.
We break down:
• The difference between crying alone vs. crying with support • What co-regulation actually looks like during sleep changes
• Why crying itself isn’t the problem — and what matters more
• How to set loving boundaries without disconnecting from your child
• Why emotions often increase during change (and why that’s not a bad thing)
• How supported emotions actually help build secure attachment
• And why true independence comes from feeling safe enough — not forced
If you’ve been feeling torn between wanting better sleep and wanting to stay responsive, this episode will help you understand how both can exist at the same time.
Because you don’t have to choose between supporting your child and making changes, you can do both 💛
Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with.
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**The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only
