The Set-Up—How We Create Suffering to Get Unmet Needs Met

Ever feel like your relationships are trapped in a frustrating loop of disappointment? The Set-Up is the invisible way we walk into rooms and relationships trying to extract the core needs that went unmet during our childhood: love, safety, approval, and validation. Because we don’t openly announce or communicate these needs, they silently transform into subconscious demands on the people around us. When others inevitably fail to meet these unspoken demands, it creates deep suffering for us. But here is the catch: this suffering feels familiar. We unconsciously keep producing the exact same painful outcomes because, deep down, we are terrified to step out of the cycle and show up as our raw, authentic selves. Discover your hidden patterns by taking the somatic test and joining the newsletter at repressiontest.com.