Episode 126: Stop doing this alone. Discover why real, unshakeable sisterhood is the ultimate game changer when considering divorce—and how connection physically rewires your brain for strength.
Lovies, welcome back! We are doing something a little different this week because we’ve hit a Fifth Tuesday—a rare moment on the calendar that only rolls around once every three months!
My business advisor gave me the most gorgeous suggestion for these Fifth Tuesdays: take a breath, look back at past episodes that didn't get the love they deserved, and pull a hidden gem up to the surface.
Today, we are resurrecting Episode 78, an episode recorded right after Quinn and I returned from our very first Stay or Go retreat. Y’all... Quinn is on fire in this conversation. She drops truth bomb after truth bomb, breaking down the neuroscience of support, why isolation is physically dangerous, and how true connection helps us heal internal misogyny and stop centering men’s emotions over our own lives.
The timing couldn't be more synchronistic. As we pass into October 2026, we are celebrating two years of the Stay or Go community and preparing for our second annual retreat! Looking at this episode now gives me chills. A year ago, women were listening to this exact conversation feeling lonely, stuck, and terrified. They took the leap, joined the community, and this month, they’re celebrating radical personal transformation in person with me.
Whether this is your first time hearing this episode or your fourth, let it hit differently today. Let it be your clarion call to stop waiting on the sidelines.
What We Dig Into in This Episode
- The Difference Between Connection and "Performative" Relationships: We unpack Brené Brown’s definition of real connection and contrast it with the conditional, role-based relationships many of us grew up with in patriarchal or high-control systems.
- The Neuroscience of Sisterhood: Why having women in your corner physically increases your capacity to handle hard things and alters your brain’s perception of fear—turning an overwhelming threat into a manageable challenge.
- The Physical Danger of Isolation: Digging into the U.S. Surgeon General’s research showing that loneliness carries health risks equivalent to smoking and obesity.
- Decentering Men and Healing Relational Aggression: How shifting away from competing for male attention allows women to rebuild the broken maternal lines and form safe, sacred webs of support.
- What "Doing Your Own Work" in Community Looks Like: Why real community isn't a passive venting space or a codependent rescue mission—it’s a mirror, a net, and a container for deep self-responsibility.
Show Notes:
Strong Ground - Brene Brown
The Rise & Fall of Capitalism - Diabolical Lies
Instagram Reel
Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation: The U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community. - Surgeon General’s Advisory
Doing Almost Anything is Better With Friends, Research Finds - Washington Post
Davis AJ, Crittenden B, Cohen E. Effects of social support on performance outputs and perceived difficulty during physical exercise. Physiol Behav. 2021 Oct 1;239:113490. doi: 10.1016/j.physbeh.2021.113490. Epub 2021 Jun 15. PMID: 34139269.
The role of social support and social identification in challenge and threat, perceived stress, and life satisfaction. Jamie C. Gillman, Martin J. Turner, Matthew J. Slater
First published: 11 July 2024 https://doi.org/10.1111/spc3.12982
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