Episode 116: Reinvent Yourself After Divorce: How to Build Your Alter Ego with Quinn Otrera💫
Welcome back, babes! If you’ve been feeling a little stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re experiencing an identity collapse while navigating marriage decisions or post-divorce life—this episode was made for you.
This week, I’m joined by the incredible Quinn Otrera, and she is bringing a tool to the podcast that blew my mind: The Alter Ego Effect (inspired by Todd Herman’s work!).
We dig deep into what happens to our sense of self when the old roles we used to play—like "wife," "Mormon mom," or "trad wife"—no longer fit. Instead of staying stuck in fear, low-grade anxiety, or the story that you’re just a "sad single mom," Quinn shares how stepping into a future-focused alter ego can completely shift your energy, your boundaries, and your nervous system.
In this episode, we talk about:
✨ What identity collapse really is—and why it’s a natural part of divorce.
✨ How famous icons (like Beyoncé and Kobe Bryant) used alter egos to break through fear.
✨ Shifting your physiology and story so you feel safe, confident, and magnetic now.
✨ Quinn’s hilarious and empowering dating stories (and how she stepped into her ultimate power stance).
✨ Practical, "tiny habit" tools to step out of the heavy slog and make rebuilding your life fun and playful again!
Whether you’re considering divorce, right in the thick of it, or rebuilding on the other side, this conversation is an invitation to play, dream, and choose who you want to be next.
(And P.S., I know I mention Quinn's worksheet dropping this week in the episode, but I’ve decided to slow down and pour some extra design love into making it a full mini-workbook for Substack in a couple of weeks!) 🎨✨
👉 Bonus for Substack Subscribers: Quinn has graciously allowed us to share her custom Alter Ego Worksheet! Head over to the paid Substack subscribers area using the link above to get your hands on it as soon as it drops in a couple weeks.
Let's step into our bold, vibrant selves together! Click play and let's dive in. 🎙️🔥
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