#92: How to Stabilize Your Emotions for Success | Karen Conlon

🧠Start healing today with our #sponsor BetterHelp and get 10% off your first month by going to:https://www.betterhelp.com/ichoosehealthYou’re the person everyone relies on. But who shows up for you?If you keep giving, achieving, and holding everything together while feeling emotionally drained or unseen, this conversation is for you.Psychotherapist, coach, author, and Emotionally Wealthy Podcast host Karen Conlon joins Stefan Lessie on the I Choose Health Podcast to explore people pleasing, emotional boundaries, and the relationship patterns we carry from childhood into adulthood.Karen explains why outward confidence can coexist with insecurity, how being needed can become tied to feeling worthy, and what she means by “emotional wealth.” Stefan also opens up about his own negative self-talk and the discomfort of learning to challenge it.In this episode, we discuss:• People pleasing and the fawn response• Why high achievers can struggle to express their needs• Childhood conditioning and becoming the helper or peacekeeper• The emotional cost of always being dependable• Negative self-talk, self-worth, and cultural expectations• Recognizing when caring for others means neglecting yourself• Having honest conversations without escalating conflictKaren also makes an important distinction between these relationship patterns and emotional abuse, which involves different barriers to choice and healing.💬 Have you ever felt appreciated for what you do but unseen for who you are? Share what resonated with you.Subscribe to I Choose Health for more conversations about mental health, relationships, and choosing yourself. Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 When Being the Strong One Leaves You Feeling Unseen02:35 Meet Karen Conlon02:59 What Is Emotional Wealth?05:03 People Pleasing, the Fawn Response & Mistreatment07:57 Why Successful People Can Still Feel Insecure11:23 Why Certain Relationships Undermine Your Confidence15:17 Being Capable Without Feeling Supported18:33 Emotional Labor & Never Feeling Like You Do Enough19:52 Is Your Worth Tied to What You Do?21:16 The Inner Narratives You Inherited23:32 Stefan Opens Up About Negative Self-Talk25:27 Why Challenging Your Inner Critic Feels Uncomfortable28:41 Culture, Humility & Self-Worth30:36 Internal Boundaries & Cultural Expectations31:50 Childhood Experiences & Relationship Roles35:41 Asking for Connection Instead of Hoping They Notice39:26 When Caring for Others Comes at Your Expense42:07 Difficult Conversations Can Be Calm45:22 Leading with Empathy During Disagreements47:58 Why Emotional Abuse Requires a Different Conversation50:01 Closing Reflections51:07 Choose Health & Choose Yourself🔗 CONNECT WITH KAREN CONLONWebsite: [https://www.karenconlon.com](https://www.karenconlon.com)Podcast: [https://karenconlon.com/podcast](https://karenconlon.com/podcast)Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/karen_conlo...](https://www.instagram.com/karen_conlo...)#PeoplePleasing #EmotionalWealth #HealthyBoundaries #KarenConlon #IChooseHealth🔔 Subscribe & Connect with I Choose Health:🎥 YouTube Podcast Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@IChooseHealt...💪 Fitness Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@mindcorefitn...📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ichooseheal...🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ichoosehealth...🎧 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0rxOkqB...🛍️ Shop Merch: https://ichoosehealthpodcast.myshopif...