You are genuinely loved. Your partner is loyal. And you still cannot breathe out and relax all the way. That is not a character flaw. It is a biochemical problem. And it has a biochemical answer.
Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Sue Carter, the world's leading expert on oxytocin and vasopressin bonding, to break down exactly why some people cannot feel safe even when they are safe, what chronic fear does to the body over a lifetime, and what the science of love hormones actually tells us about how human beings bond, heal, and survive.
What you will learn in this video:
1- Why you can be genuinely loved on paper and still be physically unable to feel that safety and what is actually happening in the body when that occurs
2- Why oxytocin is an extraordinary molecule and a terrible drug and what that distinction means for every person buying oxytocin spray
3- Why stress is not inherently bad and why shared challenge is actually one of the most powerful bonding mechanisms available to couples
4- Why the body encodes negative experiences differently than positive ones and what that means for people trying to heal
5- Why fathers who help raise their children live measurably longer and what the research says about sociality and longevity
6- Why novelty and shared experience produce more bonding than sitting on a couch together ever will
7- Why love connection and oxytocin are nature's medicine and why you cannot buy them on the internet
If you have ever wondered why safety feels impossible to feel even when it surrounds you, this conversation will give you the science behind what is happening and what can actually change it.
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