What happens when you spend so much time focused on someone else's addiction that you stop recognising yourself?


In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores one of the quieter impacts of loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours: the loss of self that can happen along the way.


Through powerful listener voice notes and Amanda's own experiences, this episode dives into what it looks like when your thoughts become consumed by someone else's drinking, recovery, moods, choices, and wellbeing.


You might recognise yourself if you've ever found yourself wondering:


💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?

💛 Why do I feel so exhausted all the time?

💛 Have I lost myself in this relationship?

💛 Why don't I know what I want anymore?

💛 How do I stop addiction consuming my life?


Amanda shares why this happens, how loving someone with addiction can slowly pull us away from ourselves, and why reconnecting with who you are doesn't have to start with a huge life change.



This episode is part of the OUT LOUD series, sharing the real voices and lived experiences of people impacted by a loved one's addiction.


👉 FREE LIVE WORKSHOP - July 2nd | 3rd replay will be available


Letting Go Without Giving Up - Finding Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or Not


If you've ever found yourself thinking:


"I'll feel better when they get help."

"I'll relax when things settle down."

"I'll be happy when the drinking stops."


This free live workshop is for you.


Together, we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to start reconnecting with yourself again.

Because your life doesn't have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change.


July 2nd | 3rd replay will be available


Register your spot here




👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?


If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.

It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.


book in a friendly chatto talk it through


The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.

👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program




Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support.


You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.

And you deserve to live your life too.


And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.


If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.

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