Are you constantly trying to fix or change the people you date instead of accepting who they actually are?
Do you find yourself picking at tiny "icks" just to protect yourself from real emotional intimacy?
What would it look like to stop chasing the chaotic "spark" and finally choose secure, peaceful love?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Sabrina Zohar, creator of Do the Work and author of Why Am I Like This?, for a deeply honest conversation about breaking toxic dating cycles, healing attachment wounds, and learning to build genuine intimacy. From watching her own relationship patterns unravel to the daily practice of unlearning childhood conditioning, Sabrina brings practical wisdom, humor, and radical permission to stop abandoning yourself in love.
This conversation covers repetition compulsion, avoidant icks vs. red flags, breaking free from limerence, and why choosing secure love requires facing uncomfortable truths. It’s one of those episodes that stays with you long after it’s over.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to identify your childhood relationship blueprints
- Differentiate avoidant "icks" from genuine red flags to stop self-sabotaging safe connections
- Break free from anxious limerence, fantasy projections, and obsessive social media checking
- Use simple communication scripts like "Can I share?" to set clear boundaries without defensiveness
- Build the self-trust required to stop abandoning your needs and choose peaceful, reciprocal love
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