107: Why Accountability Isn't Enough for Lasting Recovery

Most people believe accountability is the key to lasting recovery.

But what if accountability is only the beginning?

This week, Luke Gordon explores one of the biggest misconceptions in addiction recovery: the belief that honesty alone creates transformation.

You'll learn:

• Why accountability matters

• Where accountability stops

• What actually creates lasting change

• How emotional regulation changes recovery

• Why healing requires more than honesty

• The difference between support and transformation

Chapters

• 00:01 Crutches Analogy

• 02:08 Defining Accountability

• 04:27 Deeper Work Beyond Crutches

• 05:10 Window of Tolerance

• 07:22 Keep Going

Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute.

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