Someone can sound “helpful” and still be out of line. We’re unpacking a messy leadership reality: feedback only helps when it’s grounded in intent, consent, and context. When it isn’t, it stops being a growth tool and turns into ego, control, or someone else’s personal preference dressed up as professionalism.
Katie tells a real story from a leadership program where a fellow facilitator books time on her calendar under the guise of aligning sessions, then delivers unsolicited “tips” about her credibility, her examples, and how she should run a room. We break down why that kind of critique hits so hard, especially when you’re riding the high of doing great work, and why “feedback is a gift” can be a harmful mantra when it pressures people to accept every opinion with a smile.
From there, we get practical. We use a crucial conversations lens to define the difference between feedback and preference, and we share simple questions leaders can ask before offering critique: am I helping them succeed or making them more like me, is this about results or my comfort, did they ask, and do I have enough trust built to be heard. If you’re on the receiving end, we talk about how to look for evidence, give yourself grace, and then flush the rest without letting it steal your confidence.
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