What if changing one tiny word could change the way you talk to yourself?
In this episode of Building Confidence, we're talking about the surprisingly powerful difference between "and" and "but"—and how a small shift in language can help us recognise how far we've come without ignoring where we still want to grow.
Think about the difference between "I've learnt so much, BUT I still don't know how to do this" and "I've learnt so much, AND I still have more to learn."
Both can be true, but they feel very different.
Drawing on conversations from my coaching work and my own experiences with friendships, skills and personal growth, I explore how using "but" can sometimes unintentionally minimise everything that came before it. By replacing it with "and", we can make space for gratitude, disappointment, confidence, growth and ambition to exist alongside each other.
In this episode, we discuss:
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The subtle difference between using "and" and "but"
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How our language can unintentionally minimise our achievements
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Recognising the skills you already have while acknowledging what you still need to learn
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Why two seemingly conflicting feelings can exist at the same time
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Using this tool when setting goals and thinking about your future
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Appreciating the relationships and community you have while still wanting more
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Moving from a surviving mindset towards thriving
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Making small shifts in your self-talk that create forward momentum
You can be proud of how far you've come and want more for yourself. You can be an amazing apprentice and still have a lot to learn. You can be a capable tradesperson and find your next role challenging.
Those things don't cancel each other out—and sometimes changing one little word is enough to remind yourself of that.
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