Who was the “safe” parent in your childhood?
The one you protected.
The one you excused.
The one you told yourself was the good one.
In this episode of The Secure Attachment Code Podcast, I explore the hidden wound of the golden parent.
When one parent feels unsafe, unavailable, critical, explosive or absent, the nervous system often attaches to the other parent as the safer one. The golden parent. The one we idealise to survive.
But healing has a way of bringing us back to the truth.
What happens when the parent you thought was safe also didn’t protect you?
What happens when the parent who comforted you stayed silent?
This episode explores:
• how attachment styles are formed in early childhood
• why the nervous system creates a “golden parent”
• enmeshment and parentification in family systems
• the hidden anger beneath idealisation
• why anger is a healthy part of healing
• how secure attachment begins with telling yourself the truth
This is not about blaming either of your parents.
It’s about understanding the adaptations your nervous system made to survive and creating secure attachment within yourself now.
If you’ve ever felt guilt for being angry at the “good” parent, this episode may help you understand why.
Because sometimes the deepest wound is not from the parent who hurt you.
It’s from the parent who didn’t stop it.
Listen now.
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