I’m noticing a pattern right now who are job seeking (especially with high-performing women after a layoff or leaving a toxic environment).
You’re doing all the “right” things.
- Applying.
- Researching.
- Putting yourself out there.
But something feels…off.
You’re spending hours in the process and not feeling any closer to what you actually want.
There’s a moment that feels really good though:
- That email.
- That interview request.
- That feeling of “they chose me.”
And without even realizing it…
You can start building your job search around that feeling.
⚡️ Not alignment…
⚡️ Not desire…
⚡️ Not what you actually want next...
But the temporary relief of being chosen.
And over time, this quietly costs you:
- Time (hours you’ll never get back)
- Energy (burnout before you even land)
- Confidence (slowly lowering your standards)
In this episode, I walk you through the mistake I see so many women making and I am revealing:
⚡️ What’s really driving this pattern
⚡️ Why it’s so common after a big career shift
⚡️ The hidden cost most women don’t see until later
⚡️ And how to gently shift out of it and back into alignment
Because the truth is: Confidence is not built by being chosen.It’s built by choosing.
If you’re in a season of searching - This one is for you.
And if this resonated with you…take a moment and really sit with what came up.
Because awareness is the first step but what you do with it is what changes everything.
And if you’re ready for deeper support - this is exactly the work I do with women inside my world.
If you’re new here…
My name is Elyse Conroy.
I’m a confidence coach and career strategist for ambitious, high-performing women.
I help you build the confidence, clarity, and strategy to create a career you’re actually excited about without settling.
You can connect with me here:
⚡️ Website: soulmakeup.com
⚡️ Instagram: @elyseconroyxo
⚡️ LinkedIn: Elyse Conroy
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I’ll see you in the next one 💝
