BPD and Criticism: Splitting, Defensiveness & How to Have Hard Conversations

What do you do when “this hurt me” gets heard as “you’re a horrible person”?In this mini episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Justin, and Kaelah talk about criticism, splitting, defensiveness, and how to have difficult conversations when someone with BPD is highly sensitive to perceived rejection or shame.They get into what has actually helped in their own relationships, including balancing compassion with accountability, avoiding assumptions about someone’s intentions, knowing when to pause a conversation, and accepting an uncomfortable reality: there may not be a perfect way to say something that guarantees the other person won’t become upset or dysregulated.Topics include:* BPD and criticism* BPD splitting* Sensitivity to rejection and shame* Defensiveness in relationships* Communicating with someone with BPD* Walking on eggshells* Emotional dysregulation during conflict* BPD relationships and accountabilityIf criticism has ever sounded completely different inside your head than the words someone actually said, this conversation may feel very familiar.We’re taking a three-week break from our regular episodes to answer some of your questions! This season, we’re exploring BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), and we’ll be back with our next full-length episode on September 16 with an episode all about impulsivity.___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.