The first agreement a man and a woman should create between them is what kind of dynamic they want to create.
For couples who are considering creating a dynamic where the man is leading his woman well, and his woman is desirous of that, the two of them coming into agreement that this is in fact the dynamic they both want to create is the big first step.
Many couples get stuck at this initial step. There are several anxieties that exist on both their sides. And these anxieties should be properly addressed if they are to arrive at Agreement. The list of anxieties is long. Let’s examine 3 common concerns on each side.
WOMEN’S ANXIETIES REGARDING HAVING THEIR MAN LEAD HER IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP:
Am I giving up power? Am I choosing the weaker or subordinate position?
How often will I regret agreeing to being the follower in this dynamic?
What if I am unsatisfied in such a dynamic?
MEN’S ANXIETIES REGARDING LEADING THEIR WOMEN
Is this something I will win at? Or am I being set up to lose?
Am I being asked to lead a woman who has no intention of following or cooperating with me or appreciating my leadership?
Leading looks like a lot of work. What do I get for putting in all this extra work in this relationship?
