Dr. Joe Kort: Dad We Really Need to Talk About Straight Men Having Gay Sex - Dad, it's Paige | Lyssna här

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Joe Kort, a board-certified clinical sexologist, therapist, author, and founder of the Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. For over 40 years, Dr. Kort has worked with individuals and couples on sexual health, trauma, mixed orientation marriages, and LGBTQIA+ issues.He shares how growing up gay in the 1970s, coming out to his family, and meeting a supportive therapist as a teenager led him into this work. From there, we explore some of his most talked-about areas of practice: straight-identified men who have sex with men, the difference between sexual orientation and erotic orientation, and why behavior alone doesn’t define identity.We also talk about the realities of mixed orientation marriages, how couples sometimes stay together, when they don’t, and why it’s crucial that therapists avoid pushing their own bias about whether a couple “should” separate. Dr. Kort also discusses trauma, conversion therapy, internalized homophobia, and how erotic shame shows up in the therapy room.Toward the end of the episode, he opens up about being in a neurodivergent relationship, his viral TikTok content on autism and relationships, and what he wishes he’d told his younger therapist self about work, pace, and burnout as he moves into his sixties.

Episode Highlights:

Growing up gay in the 70s and finding a life-changing therapist
Sexual orientation vs. erotic orientation
Why some straight men have sex with men
Mixed orientation marriages: when and how they can work
The impact of trauma, sexual abuse, and conversion efforts
Men’s loneliness, shame, and emotional expression
Neurodivergent couples and redefining “normal” in relationships

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