I found Nick Pollard, known online as 'The People Displeaser,' through his Instagram reels, and three days later we were recording this conversation. Nick is a coach and recovering people pleaser who survived a brutal childhood, three divorces, and an addiction that nearly killed him. He came out the other side with ideas that a lot of people find hard to hear.
We talk about how people-pleasing quietly turns into resentment, why he calls it "little bottles of rage," and why the explosion almost always lands on someone you love. We get into why he doesn't buy the word "empath," what he saw after walking out of rehab and straight onto its staff, and why he thinks a lot of coaches need to stay in their lane. I also push him on the question I keep running into with my own audience: where does taking responsibility for your life end, and where does victim blaming begin?
Nick also shares why Narcissist's Playbook hit him so hard, and what it showed him about his own past relationships.
Nick's Instagram: @thepeopledispleaser Book: I Hope You Hate This, out January 26, 2027. Pre-order at www.ihopeyouhatethis.com
Narcissist's Playbook Screenings Washington, D.C.: Free screening, Sunday, October 25, Sylvan Theater, National Mall Want to join the D.C. street team? Email outreach@narcissistsplaybook.com Cape Town, South Africa: Late November. Details coming soon. More U.S. screenings in December, with Europe and Australia planned for early 2027. Rent the film: www.NarcissistsPlaybook.com
Patreon Behind-the-scenes footage from my trip back to Albany, New York, plus the conversations I don't have publicly: www.patreon.com/markvicente
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