**WHY YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS:**
You think you are hiding it. People noticed years ago and decided saying it would be cruel. This episode gives you the honest read nobody in your life is willing to offer, the specific tells everyone can already see, and why the feedback you need most is the feedback you are structurally least likely to get.
**WHAT THIS EPISODE COVERS:**
The four visible tells of playing small that everyone around you already recognizes, why nobody will ever tell you since honest feedback is socially expensive with no reward for the person giving it, the science of unreliable self assessment and motivated reasoning and why politeness breaks the feedback loop that would normally correct your self estimate, the spinach in the teeth analogy and why the cruelty is in the two hours rather than the spinach, and Nathan telling David you are the man after David confidently condemned his own behavior in someone else.
