"When you throw in the idea of self-care, that makes a lot of Christian people cringe and run away, because what it sounds like is self-interest, self-indulgence, and pride." ~ Pat Millea
- Is wanting rest actually a form of pride, or is refusing rest the real problem?
- What does the prophet Elijah, collapsed under a tree and praying for death, have to teach us about rest and mission?
- Where's the actual line between self-care and self-indulgence?
In this episode of This Whole Life, Pat and Kenna Millea tackle a topic that makes a lot of faithful Christians uneasy: self-care. They name the tension head-on, if love means seeking the good of the other, why would seeking your own good ever be justified? From there they work through the common cultural misuses of self-care before proposing a clearly Catholic definition: self-care is seeking out the renewal, recreation, and refreshment we need in order to return to our duties with greater love, freedom, and generosity, not an end in itself.
Pat brings two scriptural examples to ground the conversation, including a deep dive into 1 Kings 19, where the prophet Elijah, exhausted and afraid after his showdown with the prophets of Baal, flees into the wilderness and prays for death. God's response isn't a rebuke. It's food, rest, and eventually a face-to-face encounter that sends him back to his mission renewed. Pat and Kenna use that story to draw out the real dividing line between self-indulgence and the kind of self-care that actually serves love.
This episode is for anyone who has ever felt guilty for needing rest, or wondered if taking care of themselves is somehow in conflict with taking care of everyone else.
Episode 110 Show Notes
Chapters:
- (00:00) - Cold Open
- (00:29) - Welcome, Where in the World, and a Movie Trivia Game
- (22:17) - Naming the Tension: Does Self-Care Sound Like Pride?
- (28:16) - A Catholic Definition of Self-Care
- (34:27) - Elijah in the Wilderness: 1 Kings 19
- (39:52) - Self-Care as Return to Mission
- (54:59) - Challenge by Choice and Closing Prayer
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Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.
